Hobbies for Loners – A Mental Health Break

Hobbies for Loners – A Mental Health Break

Do you have a lot of time to kill? Or is finding time for yourself tough? Is it selfish? I thought for a long time, if I wasn’t giving 100% to everything around me, I wasn’t doing what I was supposed to do. I got so wrapped up in trying so hard to please everyone; I think I may have lost a part of myself for a while. Hobbies for loners aren’t EXACTLY what I am proposing. Just taking a moment for yourself and finding what would make you happiest.

Organization

Did you know that organization could be relaxing? I didn’t, it was just another job I didn’t want to do. I didn’t feel the need to do it. For a while, I think my home could have been considered almost a hoarder’s house. Maybe I’m being over dramatic here, but a lot of things I feel an emotional attachment to. I felt there was value in the things that I saved and kept, so why not keep it longer.

If I was going to get rid of anything, I was going to have a yard sale and recoup some of that money back. There’s a lot of money spent on my items and I wasn’t going to just give it away. After 10 years and a couple of garage sales later, I was still in the same spot.

I realize now, there was a lot of stuff everywhere, but no organization. I recently watched the news and someone suggested the following:

  1. Wake up and have a large glass of water and a good breakfast.
  2. Collect boxes, sharpies, packaging tape and cleaning products.
  3. Start with a small room or space, so you are not overwhelmed.
  4. If something doesn’t belong in that space, designate a box for the room it goes in.
  5. Keep going, don’t stop to take things to the room it belongs in (you will get caught up in that room too and you will lose focus)

Clean and organize as you go. It’s OK to leave the boxes in that room. Once you’ve mastered that space you will feel SO MUCH BETTER! Keep it going!! You can do this!

Journalism and Recording

Do you ever feel that so many thoughts are running through you head, clarity is unreachable? A lot of times I can’t organize my thoughts. Sometimes I am talking and 5 different subjects come up in the course of a 3-minute conversation if I am allowed to rant. Fred, my husband has a hard time keeping up with the conversation.

During on e of the many randomly amazing conversations with my cube mate, she told me she has a notebook by the side of her bed. She often has trouble sleeping so she will write everything down to get it out of her head. I am so thankful for this little tidbit! Never thought it would help, to just write!

There are so many opportunities to write about! Were you one to diary or journal when you were little? Did you just hate English class? It wasn’t my favorite and I didn’t really journal, but when I started writing I found it was addicting! Just putting all of my thoughts out there helped emotionally and psychologically. I have found freedom!

Get off your Butt!

Have you ever felt so much energy, you just didn’t know what to do with yourself? I have, but I have applied that energy in not so healthy ways. From eating, smoking and saying whatever comes to my mind, I have been doing this all wrong. We as humans need to move!

I have gone in spurts where I have been all about working out and getting healthy, but it never stuck as a lifestyle. As a teen and in my early 20s, I worked mainly at local gyms and took advantage of that while I was there. I felt I was my most healthiest self there. I felt accountable; you don’t want to look like you don’t belong right? I was doing it for the wrong reasons.

I am trying to get my head right at this point. I am for the first time over 200 lbs and feel like crap. Changes in my lifestyle are needed at this point and if you have the right mindset, only you have the power to change it.

What Works? None of These!

OK, so none of these work or inspire you. Understandable! Take a moment and write down 3 things you enjoy doing at this moment in your life. Then think about High School and write 3 things you enjoyed doing then. Think back to grade school, or a favorite pastime you used to do with your best friend or family member when you were little. Is there a pattern or somehow you can link from 3 time periods?

There isn’t a right or a wrong answer, it’s going to be personal to you which is best. A simple example of creating yours, could be:

When you were little, you liked to ride your bike with your friends

You liked going to the movies with you Grandma when you were little

You like to read on your time off from work

You could get a book on tape, buy a bike from your local resale shop and get pedaling! You have so many options to be creative and enjoy those hobbies for loners! Please share your new hobbies, maybe someone hasn’t thought of the amazing idea you have. As always, take care!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Kerry Brauner

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