Note for Self – Totally Cliché

Note for Self – Totally Cliché

Reminders, check! Alarms check! Note for self, check!!! You gotta be kidding me with all the stuff to remember. Appointments, parties, work, make dinner, the list goes on and on. OK, so it doesn’t help if you are like me and haven’t been an organized person, ever. I couldn’t even imagine having kids thrown into the mix!

So, I’m just saying, how do we keep it all straight? Please see my dilemma below…

The Home, the Ultimate Clutter Keeper

Ok, I am not the tidiest of people, not at all. I am sharing my deepest darkest secrets here, so please don’t judge. I was a very spoiled child, I hardly ever cleaned. Homework, school and my social life were at the top of my responsibility list. It’s silly, right? I wasn’t the most popular, the homecoming queen, or the valedictorian of the class. I was just plain old me and nothing special.

So, if you had a chance to read my ‘About Me’ page, you know about my “incident” a few years ago and what I can safely say today is I was bonkers. My house was a wreck; it seemed like a hoarder’s house (or getting there) and totally unhealthy. Only recently have we really done a lot of cleaning and the energy is already better in here.

No more excuses and complaining about the home, I promise. I met with my cousin recently and during dinner she mentioned trouble with keeping the house clean. She had put together a cleaning board with a list of chores that have to be done weekly. Ingenious! Especially for someone whose cleaning talents have not yet matured and the memory is terrible. Seems simple, but it worked!

Kith and Kin

When it comes to family, I am in love. If anyone in my family were to call me, I would be there. No matter the circumstance, I won’t think. I respond quickly and emotionally without any thought on how it will affect the other person. Do I have a problem with boundaries or a constant need to be involved in drama? I think we’ll leave that to the professionals for now.

I also have a problem with keeping track of important dates. Seems simple enough to keep a calendar, write all special dates on there and have one place to keep track of everything. For some reason though, my brain goes so fast that I can’t keep up with it. I’ll start this calendar for birthdays and I’ll have this calendar for Facebook and family events. This one will be for work events. Then I confuse which one is what. I am not this popular! I don’t have that much going on to warrant this.

So, we are working on this. I have a day planner that I have birthdays and major holidays in. I also have reminders for special events, days off from work and others 2-3 days ahead. Double and triple checking isn’t a bad thing, is it?

Health & Wellness

Alright, I had a nervous breakdown. I am currently under a Psychiatrist and Psychologist’s care, those trained professionals I spoke of. They have been a great support and I am amazingly blessed to have met them. I have recently chosen a new primary care physician, a resident who I will have the pleasure of visiting for the next 2 years. So far, everything looks good, bad cholesterol is a little high but no medication is needed. Vitamin D is a little low, so I will be adding that to my diet too.

Focusing on Health and Wellness, the plan is to start using my Fitbit for what it is made for. I have been successful for the past week, so let’s just keep it going. It’s a great little tool to keep you motivated too! You can log your calorie and water intake, womanly schedule and fitness. I plan to use it to my fullest advantage!

OK, Really?

I have to say, the last couple of years have been a struggle. SMART goals are a new thing for me, but rereading this story, I’ve got a lot going on! I hope, no, I know I haven’t bitten off more than I can chew. This is a life changing adventure and I am so glad I can share it with you. Please leave me messages, questions and advice below. I’ll take all the help I can get! Take care!

Kerry Brauner

20 thoughts on “Note for Self – Totally Cliché

  1. This is a great post. I like the fact that you are sharing something so personal and I am sure this will help many people.

    Personally writing things down don’t help me remember because sometimes I forget to read my journal. But using a smartwatch or my phone to set a reminder helps me big time. Because, those are things that I am sure to use every day. And I use my note book in my phone instead of a physical book. Tech generation, right?

    Thanks

    1. Thank you Adyns68!  I agree with you about writing things down, I have several notebooks going right now.  One for website ideas, one for business ideas, now I just have to remember where I wrote things down.  My husband recently bought me a voice recorder because sometimes ideas come to me that I cant write things quick enough.  I just have to figure out how it works!  😉

  2. Ah, yes, I do understand your dilemma with clutter.  I am not the best housekeeper in the world either, and lately have been so busy working on websites that my problem has gotten even worse.

    One thing that helps me is a Daytimer.  I call it my “brain” because I can’t get along without it.  There’s a full page with times on it for each day, so you have room to make a daily list.  I find that so helpful in keeping organized about what I have to do that day.  

    For the first time in my life, I have a dishwasher in this house.  That is really helpful, as it keeps the sink from getting cluttered with unwashed dishes.  You surely know that drill.  Also, when I moved here, I went over everything carefully and forced myself to get rid of stuff I don’t use.  Getting some of the junk out of the house has helped.  Perhaps you can have a garage sale.  I had four of them before I moved here.

    1. Thank you Fran!  The Daytimer is an amazing idea!  I will try that so I stay organized throughout the day.  Just need to stick to it!  Congrats on the dishwasher!  That is a really helpful tool and I take advantage of it all the time.  You are right, I can have a garage sale.  I have recently gone through a portion of my kitchen pans and am going to donate them.  I think that might be the way I go.  I didn’t know, but even though churches may not keep items that are donated, they will find a home for the items.  Letting go of things I really don’t need any longer and find a place where they can be useful.  

  3. You have a great family support, Kareb! Whatever you’re going through, you can surpass them all. It looks like your handling things pretty well and I admire you for sharing that to everyone. I see a bubbly personality that can give so much encouragement to all.

    Don’t worry about cleaning. At least you’re getting there. I was a total messy person before I had my own family but as times change, I learn to like chores and enjoyed working on it. Gives me a sense of fulfillment everytime I finish the job. 

    All things are achievable,l with discipline and perseverance. Just don’t make it too hard on yourself. Go for balance: Work, play,eat, sleep! Have fun doing things! Thank you for sharing a bit of yourself. I found positive inspiration on this!

    1. Thank you for your kind words MissusB!  I have been slow to realize that a lot of the pressure I feel, I put on myself.  I absolutely enjoy doing things now and try to live in the moment as much as possible. 🙂

  4. Hi Kareb

    Thank you for sharing such a personal story, it’s always difficult to break habits that we have formed over a lifetime and change can be overwhelming, seeking out help is the first step to recovery and it sounds like you have taken those steps. 

    Given your clear love for your family, I am sure that they are there to support when you need it most. Good luck, and I hope you find peace and happiness going forward.

    1. Hi Dominic,

      Thank you so much!  I do have a very supportive family and I appreciate their patience and humor!  Support from them and the help I’ve received along the way from my local community has been the best medicine.  Still in the process, but hopefully moving forward.

  5. I think you are brave to be so open and authentic about your journey and I commend you on your investment to the posts you have created. 

    This kind of forum can prove to be of great value to those seeking mutuality or a place to go to be heard. 

    Uncovering and healing mental misalignment can be overwhelming and isolating – it is a good vibe you offer a safe space for people to come and share their stories.

    All the best!

    -Bex

    1. Hi Bex,

      Thank you for your kind words.  I totally would like people to feel welcome to share their own experiences.  I have learned so much in the past three years, just by being honest and open to change.  Sometimes sharing can be freeing.

  6. I never note down anything in my life. So the result is I forget something which I thought to do. I forget even the birthdays of my loved ones. So, hereafter I should note down everything. If I open my wardrobe, it’s messy. I hate cleaning my house. But when it is cleaned, I feel happy. I hate washing kitchenware too. Now I have started doing yoga, and I am energetic and started improving my cleanliness. Not only the freshness but also on overall, I feel very active. You can be more organized and disciplined by practicing yoga.

    Thanks For sharing your excellent article,

    1. Thank you Prabakaran!  I will definitely look into Yoga.  It’s been quite a while since I did a class, but I always felt so much better!  Peaceful and clear headed.  That is a great suggestion!

      Cleaning isn’t my favorite either, however I do get that feeling of relief once it is done.  I think procrastination has a little bit to do with it, however once we get this weekly plan in place, I think I will remember to do what needs to be done.  Thank you!

  7. I appreciate and identify very well what you are going through. I, too, was shoved out of the way as a kid, the youngest, never taught how to keep a clean house. My mom was superwoman and I think she just wanted it to stay that way. When I first moved out I couldn’t even manage to come close to a clean house, I was super disorganized, still am, but have learned a lot since then just from life experience and reading about tips on housekeeping. I love the tip of a weekly list tacked on the wall, I could have used that back then.

    Good job sharing yourself so honestly. Mental illness is such a frightening thing to admit because you think people will automatically be disgusted or frightened of you, at least in my own experience. Truth is, I think most people really do care, and honest stories like yours are disarming and help fight the stigma. Thank you.

    1. Thank you Elaine Nicol.  I agree, there’s a stigma with mental illness.  It’s invisible and a lot of times you can only speculate on what others are going through.  It’s a shame, but by sharing things hopefully we can make sense of the world around us and the thoughts in our own heads.

  8. I must say that I have never read anything like this before and kudos to you for having the courage for being so open about your personal affairs. I do agree though that writing about things, especially about negative experiences may help curing them. By seeing specialists and creating this blog it seems to me like a certain way to full recovery. And yes, in the process you might be helping a lot of other people with problems or similar issues. This is a very interesting initiative and I trust you will get many followers in the future.

    1. Hi Jerry,

      I appreciate your kind words.  I want to help and if I can share some of my misfortunes or opportunities for growth, that’s the plan.  I don’t want anyone to feel alone in what they are going through.  Just some of us don’t talk about it.  

  9. Hello, Kareb.  Great post. I hope you never lose your sense of humor.  It will carry you through a lot of this stuff.

    I, too, am not that well organized.  I don’t write down what I want to accomplish in a day.  Got a website, got to set goals, got write content… then there are the duties at home that have to be fit in and the things I would like to do on the side.

    You see, I am recently retired and now you would think I have all this extra time to do the things I want to and the things I have to and, you know what?  THERE STILL ISN’T ENOUGH TIME IN THE DAY TO GET IT DONE. 🙂  Oh, and one other thing.  Do you do this?  PROCRASTINATE!

    I have been told that people like us might have a touch of ADHD.  I think it might be true of me so, it seems that writing things down might be a place for me to start.  What do you think?

    Now, where did I put my note pad?

    Wayne

    1. Hi Wayne, thank you!  I’m so glad someone else feels my pain. LOL!  Oh yeah procrastination is a big thing, there is always later to do something.  Especially the stuff I don’t want to do!  We just have to do it!  I can seem to lose focus by just walking into a different room.  

      We used to watch Family Guy and the character James Woods (played by himself) would get sidetracked when he would see a piece of candy.  We are also training our puppy to focus by putting treats by our face.  Mom said she is going to use tootsie roll pops around something to make me focus.  Haha!!

  10. Actually, this is exactly the information that I was looking for information about Note for self-Totally cliché and when I landed on your website and read this post, it answered all my questions in detail. Just don’t make it too hard on yourself. Go for balance: work, play, eat, sleep! Have fun doing things! But using a smart watch or my phone to set a reminder helps me big time. Because those are the things that I am sure to use every day. I found positive inspiration for this!

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    1. Hello Nasrin19!  I’m glad you found this article helpful.  You are absolutely right, balance is key.  Reminders are a big help, and I really appreciate your feedback!

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